The psychology behind introversion and extroversion

THE PROBLEMS FACED BY INTROVERTS AND EXTROVERTS

I shared a cab for the very first time on my way to the airport. Since the girl in the cab looked almost my age, I effortlessly initiated a conversation. After receiving a few awkward replies I guessed she wasn’t very comfortable having a conversation. Therefore the rest of the drive was just the music from the radio and us looking outside the window.

So why is there a difference in the way people behave in similar social scenarios?

The answer to that question lies in the different personality traits of people which is shaped by biological and social forces.

Contrary to popular belief of putting people in two distinct boxes of ‘Introverts’ and Extroverts, personality is not purely black and white. Dan McAdams, Ph.D., chair of the Psychology Department at Northwestern University says, “There are no pure types in psychology, extroversion/introversion is a continuous dimension, like height and weight. There are people who score at the extremes, like very heavy people, or very tall people, or people who score very high on the trait of extroversion—but most people fall in the middle of these bell-shaped curves.”

What is extroversion and introversion?

These terms were popularized by Carl Jung, a Swiss Psychiatrist, and Psychoanalyst, who characterized the traits of extroverts, where people obtain their gratification from outside of themselves. They are enthusiastic, energetic, talkative and more assertive when they are in large social settings and are more prone to getting bored by themselves. Introversion, on the other hand, is the state of being more self-satisfied with one's mental self. They are more reserved and reflective, and their energies expand through reflection and diminish with interactions.

With these different personality traits, people often end up unsatisfied with themselves as these characteristics restrict them from doing a lot of things that they might want to do.

Few Issues Which People Face:

Introverts:

● Problems when given a role which involves being socially interactive
● Issues when working in a team
● Inability in expressing emotions
● Underestimating of their talents and skills by others

Extroverts:

● Inability to spend time alone
● Overexpressing of thoughts
● Always needing someone to share emotions with
● Intruding on others’ space by talking too much

What could be the solutions to these problems?

● Expanding one’s comfort zone, trying to do new things by entering spheres where one feels confident enough and conquering those fields
● Trying to be vocal about thoughts and feelings, so that colleagues know what is going on
● Giving more importance to face to face communication than virtual communication
● ‘Fake it till you make it’ - learning this mantra and practicing till one is where one envisions oneself to be
● Finding the right social group where one can grow into a confident individual
● Meditating so as to maintain mental peace and cleansing of the mind
● Learning to enjoy one’s own company and being alone sometimes

Some things to remember:

Personalities are not rock-solid, they’re a continuum. We develop these personality traits through a life-long process as our experiences play a vital role in molding the kind of people we become.

Putting people in distinct personality boxes never works as everyone has a mixture of these characteristics. We can always work on what we do not like about ourselves and transform ourselves into people we aspire to become, all that we need is hard work and the willpower to be able to reach our goals and fulfill our aspirations.

Article by: Shrenya Soni

Psychology Associate


Comments

Rohit Chopra
Yup in this world of labels we need to remember that we possess characteristics of both introverts and extroverts. As per our comfort and the requirements of the situation, we can adapt 😀😇
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Vaibhawi Soni
Impressive
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Nishi Soni
Both these personalities are within us, and we have to use both of these according to different situations we are in, balancing this makes us a successful human being. This idea has been expressed very well in this article. Well Written! 👌
Harsha Aray
Well written 💯💯🤩
Rajanish Karan
Bootyfull
Shubham Shrey
Combination of best talks with best ideas can make it even better than it is😄
Shruti shankar
Very well written
RISHAV GHOSH
Very helpful. Thank you for this one.
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Nilava Saha
Nice writeup!! Much to grab from this article :) :)
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Aman Prakash
very well penned down... finding the right social group where you feel confident enough is a very important point highlighted by the writer which i personally have experienced 😍
Arpan Purty
Thanks for sharing, this was much needed!!!
yatika chhabra
Very true words!
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Yatin Chhabra
Very helpful article 👌
Yash Singh
Very informative 👏🏻
David Dayal Purty
Very helpful article!
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Abhishek Kongari
Loved it!
Yahoi Konyak
Thank you for this insight!

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