How to become confident? – 9 Life-changing ways


Rohit Chopra

Founder CEO @Zifcare

The world around us is changing. There’s competition at all levels, whether in our professional or social life. We are constantly reminded of things we don’t have, or goals we haven’t accomplished. In such a situation, it is important to keep up our self-confidence, both for our mental wellness as well as to prepare for success. It is important to know that confidence is not something you have, it’s something you create. Being confident is nothing more than a belief in yourself. It’s the feeling of certainty that you can accomplish whatever you set your mind to. Confidence comes from within, and you can find ways to be more confident at any time. Here are a few tips to help boost your self-confidence.

1. Make a list of achievements

This is simply the most important tool to get started. Unless we appreciate the things we’ve done so far, it’s unlikely we can ever have the courage to do something new. It’s best to take a piece of paper and write down our achievements. We might think they are not significant, but the more we belittle them, the weaker our confidence gets. It’s important to write and note our accomplishments to date. This might be very uncomfortable in the beginning, as most of us are unsatisfied with what we’ve achieved so far. But once we begin to think about things objectively, we would be able to realize that things aren’t as bad as we thought them to be. Then, we can move forward with greater energy.

2. Speak Up

Too many times, we don’t share our opinion or ask a question because we’re worried that we’ll look stupid. This is unfair to us. We lose out on the opportunity to share our insight or gain more knowledge. It’s important to speak up when required, it helps ourselves and others feel involved. Each lost opportunity to speak up puts a small dent in our confidence. So, let’s speak up!

3. Exercise regularly

When we neglect our body, the mind loses its energy. Exercising not only has incredible health benefits such as boosting immunity, increasing energy levels, and improving quality of life but also leads to the nervous system releasing endorphins and other hormones which help boost confidence levels. Good health is an integral part of self-confidence. Regular exercise also helps us build good habits such as self-discipline and self-control which are essential building blocks of personality.

4. Set and complete a realistic challenge

In the hustle and bustle of daily life, we often lose sight of our goals. The cooking class we wanted to take, the book reading club we wanted to join, or the place we wanted to travel to! Putting off these things forever, with no actionable plan in place, surely destroys our self-confidence. Once our mind accepts the fact that we can’t achieve the goals that we set for ourselves, it loses its creativity, energy, and its power. By taking up realistic challenges and completing them, we retrain the mind to achieve goals. With time, as we build up our confidence, we can move to bigger goals.

5. Dump negativity

This is more important than most of us realize. While building up our confidence through positive thoughts and actions, it is essential to keep the mind away from negativity. This negativity might arise from our own minds or other people's opinions. For instance, we might think a few days after joining a gym: “What’s the point? I’m too old for this.” This might lead us to question and abandon our own decision to live a healthy life. Avoiding this kind of toxic thinking is essential if we are to build self-confidence.

6. Believe in yourself

I can’t emphasize the importance of this step, if we don’t believe in ourselves, we can’t be confident. If you look around, there is one thing common in all successful people of every field, THEY BELIEVE IN THEMSELVES.

Have you ever seen Virat Kohli or Shah Rukh Khan saying that they can’t do it? Even when they find it hard, they still hustle, just because they believe in themselves. Your belief in yourself should be unconditional.

It should not be based on achievements or your success. You should truly believe in yourself with or without it. Who will really believe in you if not yourself?

When you believe in yourself and realize your potential, you automatically become confident and strive for the things you want.

7. Overcome limiting beliefs

To truly learn how to be confident, you need to love yourself first. When you practice self-love, you’ll have confidence no matter what happens in life, because that confidence will come from within. Many people never learn how to fall in love with themselves and instead develop a lack of confidence early in life. They unconsciously adopt limiting beliefs about what they are capable of, or what type of relationship they deserve. This leads to self-sabotage and reinforcement of these beliefs – and overcoming them is the first step to total confidence.

8. Develop a better self-talk

It is our words that create our emotions, and our emotions that create our world. If we’re not feeling confident, it’s a result of the stories we tell ourselves – and the words we use to tell them. How do you talk to yourself in your own mind? It is your inner monologue or self-talk that affects your self-confidence. Try to catch yourself when you are thinking negatively about yourself and replace the thought with something you like about yourself.

On the days when you find it difficult to uplift yourself, you can take help from Zifcare’s free podcast to boost you up like your best friend.

9. Increase competence

How do you feel more competent? By becoming more competent. And how do you do that? By learning and practicing. Just do small bits at a time. If you want to be a more competent writer, for example, don’t try to tackle the entire profession of writing all at once. Just begin to write more. Journal, blog, write short stories, do some freelance writing. The more you write, the better you’ll be. Set aside 30 minutes a day to write, and the practice will increase your competence. One thing that helps for sure is the amount of effort you put into things.

Building confidence is a journey and not a destination. It requires a lot of effort at both physical and mental levels. Being confident is one of the most important life skills that can help you achieve your ultimate potential. We hope these ways help you in your journey to becoming your best self.

Note: The team at Zifcare consists of psychologists, yoga teachers, and life coaches who prepare this content for the benefit of our users. We stick to basic, simple, and actionable advice so that all can benefit from the knowledge and best practices from across the globe to promote mental and physical well-being.

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