Being emotionally independent

We all have been through relationships, some were serious, some were casual, but no matter what you call it, it HURTS when it ends. It’s difficult to cope up and move on, months pass by, sometimes even years.

One thing we all try or think of doing is to rebound or get closely attached to someone else of opposite sex, which comes naturally along. That person can be either a friend, colleague or even someone random from a dating app. They make us feel happy about ourselves, comfort us, keep us from drifting into those past memories.

Before the breakup we had a partner, to whom we could go and cry and share our joys and sorrows. But after the breakup, when that person is gone we are all alone, we latch onto the very next person we come across, leading to rebounding or casual dating. That's because we are afraid of being ALONE.

At times, we forget about the old relationship and move on with the current one, but we need to consider, have we really changed with respect to our behaviour with the new person or are we the same as we were back then (past relationship)??

Some people change for good & some don't, because they don't give enough time to self-evaluate their past behaviour and end up making the same mistake again. Even after ending one relationship or more, they keep wondering what went wrong and start to curse themselves, sinking deep into a sea of depression.

Under such circumstances being emotionally independent is of utmost importance.

Being emotionally independent means - the ability to manage your life and your stress levels, even under negative circumstances.

The simple fact is, that if you are emotionally independent, you don't need other person to feel good about yourself and be happy. You will get a sense of confidence and feel less anxious about the past, when you look in the mirror.

This is possible by:

• Gaining a better understanding of your values and long-term goals
• Paying more attention to yourself
• Taking full responsibility of your happiness and success
• Becoming aware of how you naturally respond to positive/negative aspects of life
• Taking steps towards changing your negative feelings (it will take time, but eventually you will get there)
• Knowing trust in yourself is more important than loving someone else

Summing it up all, ‘Give time for yourself, because if you don't start truly trusting & loving yourself, you can never truly trust & love someone else'.